What A Male Escort Taught Me About Going All The Way…

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I saw him coming towards me.

Eyes locked and a determined walk caused a little voice in me to go, ‘Uh-oh, here we go,’ a voice that thousands, if not millions, of women before me have heard as they anticipate being approached by a man they’d rather not.

I braced myself.

‘Are you alone?’

Relieved at being given such an easy escape, I quickly answered, ‘No, my friend’s in the bathroom.’

I was off the hook.

He didn’t miss a beat as he murmured in what I suspect he considered seductive tones, maintaining eye contact with me the whole time, ‘You are a very beautiful woman.’

He pushed something into my hand that I took as a way to distract myself from rolling my eyes in such a large circle, I gave myself a headache.

As he retreated I looked at what he’d given me. It was a card with his name and phone number. His business title, ‘Gentleman Escort.’

I looked at it in astonishment. I had been approached by a male escort!

The idea of it. My, my…

I allowed myself a little chortle. Another tale to add to my life story of adventure, curiosity and occasional mayhem.

Another tale not to tell my grandchildren.

I was in Atlanta airport, dressed for flying, when this happened.

Now, I’m no Hollywood star, paps snapping me as I walk through the building with my sunglasses on.

Inside.

I wear baggy sweats, no makeup and tennis shoes when I fly. Not, I imagine, attire suited for a date with a male escort.

And certainly not beautiful.

Now I can see, just, that this man might appeal to a certain type of lady who would like a younger male companion for dinner.

And I’ve been told that some women prefer the company, and other benefits a male escort can provide, to a relationship.

Although I’ve never personally met any.

But even if I were the kind of woman who responded to the open-necked shirt, collar splayed wide, gold chain and handlebar moustache type of man (honestly, he looked like a porn star from the 80s – not that I know much about that kind of thing,) I simply could not see how he would be successful.

Given that I was in the departure area.

I had baggage with me. A boarding pass in my hand. I was clearly about to get on a flight.

Where did he think he was going to take me? The café in the airport lounge?

And then?

I mulled this over and over on my flight to California. There was a fundamental flaw in his marketing strategy.

An airport might be a novel place to meet single women with discretionary income especially during the day when the bars are closed and he has nothing to do.

But he didn’t think it all the way through.

All he had to do was take a few steps and place himself in the arrivals hall. He might have met a slew of women, arriving in Atlanta on business, lonely in the evenings, craving a man with a gold chain and a handlebar moustache.

Maybe.

I’ve learned that generally in life, 20% of my efforts take me 80% towards my goal. And 80% of my efforts might net me the final few percentage points.

So where am I going to put my energy and for how long? Do we need to get all the way up the mountain to see the view or is halfway just fine?

In our male escort’s case he needed to go all the way. Meeting the right women in the wrong location meant total failure. He had the right idea but spacing the final stage made the difference between a date and a bust.

Literally 😉

P.S. The man in the image accompanying this blog post is clearly not a representation of the aforementioned escort. I just thought he was, as the Americans say, easier on the eye.

Is there a slight change you can make that might make all the difference to achieving your goals? Or will it work for you to get 80% of the way there with 20% of the effort? Have you ever encountered a male escort or was it just my lucky day? Let me know in the comments!

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Lisa D Liguori
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March 29, 2011 at 8:05 pm

Damn! He’s cute! The guy in the photo that is. Excellent analogy, Alison. Maybe the guy had a fear of success 😉

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Alison Golden March 29, 2011 at 8:08 pm

Isn’t he just?

A fear of success. I hadn’t thought of that. Good point!

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Melody Granger
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March 29, 2011 at 8:58 pm

hahahaha, definitely a flawed plan! You’re so smart Alison. Do you still have the business card? Give him some marketing advice!!!!!
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Alison Golden March 29, 2011 at 9:03 pm

I did not keep his card, Melody. I wish I had, if only for the memory of it. I wonder what he’s doing now…:-)

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Mary E. Ulrich
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March 30, 2011 at 7:21 am

Alison, you definitely know how to make a grabber headline:)

I never expected this post to be about marketing–but it is a great analogy.

And yes, you are beautiful, and yes, you’re not going to be able to keep this story from your kids.
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Alison Golden March 30, 2011 at 7:33 am

I am so proud of this headline, Mary! I don’t, however, think it’s what my teachers at my expensive private school had in mind when they were teaching me about Shakespeare, et al. 🙂 Thank you for your kind words and I think I’m going to hold off tell the kids for a while yet.

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misty March 30, 2011 at 10:03 am

This was a great piece! It is thought provoking. On an entirely different note, I’m wondering about whether or not I should hope to glean such wisdoms from other awkward encounters life brings my way…
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Alison Golden April 2, 2011 at 5:53 pm

You totally can, Misty. That’s what I do. I tend to reflect upon things, sometimes too much and eventually process them until I am done with them and or can gain some meaning from them. Blogging is very useful for doing this. I tend to cast back over my life for a story and find a meaning in it beyond the obvious. It is fascinating what you can learn from life this way and means every experience is one that can be learned from.

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Mamaof2 March 30, 2011 at 1:07 pm

Alison, love your view of this world!!! So funny, so insightful – thank you for the wisdom and the laughs. sarah
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Alison Golden April 2, 2011 at 5:44 pm

Love your comment, Sarah! I’m glad it made your smile. Thank you 🙂

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Dead Cow Girl April 1, 2011 at 3:23 pm

Great post!

I know several male prostitutes, but they are all gay and only see men. And I’m pretty sure NONE of them approach clients in the street. They all get their clients from rentboy.com.

And also I’m pretty sure that none of them would be caught dead in public with that look!

Obviously, with the poor boys choice of attire, he’s not a great decision maker. Perhaps you should contact him with a few marketing tips.
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Alison Golden April 1, 2011 at 8:16 pm

I did get an email from a male escort after I wrote this and he said the same thing about picking up clients in the street not being the way to go. I suspect that guy is not doing escorting work any longer. He’s probably working on a building site or something.

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Robin April 2, 2011 at 7:10 pm

What a great title. I would have never thought that this article would be about reaching your goals. I love it.
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Alison Golden April 4, 2011 at 9:28 am

Thanks, Robin. I think it’s my best headline yet. I always worry when coming up with a title that people are going to feel let down by the content but unless there’s a hook, fewer people click. Cosmo does it all the time. And it makes them very successful.

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Kevin April 4, 2011 at 9:20 am

Hi Alison,
I read your story about the male escort business card. Sadly their are
guys out there that do low key things to try find clients.

But its not how a professional male companion works. It is still taboo
for a woman to book a male companion in the world. I found that
wealthy women have responsibilities and some have very little time to
enjoy the fruits of their labour. For others, their wealth and
position have made it somewhat difficult to fulfil their needs and
desires due to business and other commitments. For these reasons I
have made myself available as an intimate companion to fulfil needs
and desires.

Kind regards
Kevin

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Alison Golden April 4, 2011 at 9:22 am

Thanks, Kevin, for clarifying. I’m glad my experience wasn’t typical.

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Kevin April 4, 2011 at 10:03 am

Hi Alison, Not a problem at all to help out. I just wanted add I just recieved updates that showtime is starting a new series of male escorts in Las Vegas called gigolos which should be interesting how it comes out. Hopefully they are high class male companions link for gigolos trailer is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mtPET_N4e5A

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Alison Golden April 4, 2011 at 10:25 am

Hey, thanks Kevin. I’ll check it out 🙂

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Trinidad April 4, 2011 at 10:32 am

I knew when I read the headline it was going to be an interesting and an awesome blog as they all are. Thanks for making me smile and adding a little more insight into my life. YOU ROCK!
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Alison Golden April 4, 2011 at 1:01 pm

Thanks, Trini. I’m glad I made you smile 🙂

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Galit Breen
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April 6, 2011 at 11:52 am

Goodness Alison! You rocked the title and the comment section in this one! I loved the analogy and will*never* view anyone at the airport in the same way! 🙂

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Alison Golden April 6, 2011 at 6:47 pm

You can meet interesting people in airports that’s for sure. I’ve met quite a few in my time 🙂

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Andi
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April 6, 2011 at 6:58 pm

Well this did not lead where I thought it was going to, as a new reader I was not prepared for the life lesson that you threw out at the end, it hit me like a sledgehammer and it is the perfect analogy for a lesson that my husband actually needs to grasp…although I am not sure he would appreciate this deliver 😉
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Alison Golden April 9, 2011 at 2:39 pm

Probably not a story for your husband, no. I find it fascinating to craft a lesson from these stories. I find it extremely rewarding and reminds me of when I homeschooled my son. We made educational experiences from things that I would have formerly seen as dead end activities. Everything has something to teach us beyond the obvious.

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Paul Eilers April 8, 2011 at 10:15 am

It takes a lot of make-up for a woman to look natural.

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Byn
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May 31, 2011 at 11:04 am

Wow. That’s a new one! I haven’t ever encountered that before… Wow. And you’re right, he should have been approaching people at the arrivals gate in hopes to find someone new/visiting that needed some company:)
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Alison Golden June 1, 2011 at 2:02 pm

I think it’s unique, Byn. I don’t know anyone whose had this happen. Only me…

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Charise
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July 6, 2011 at 5:13 am

Ha! You have the best blog post titles 😉

Stumbled 🙂

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Alison Golden July 6, 2011 at 3:35 pm

I am very proud of it but Cosmo hasn’t called…yet.

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The Damsel in Dis Dress
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July 6, 2011 at 9:13 am

Hahaha! I love your post title. Fun to read and yeah, that guy in the pic…dreamy….and there’s actually an important lesson to be learned here.

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Alison Golden July 6, 2011 at 3:36 pm

I know! Who’d have thunk it? A lesson hidden amongst a post about male escorts and a gorgeous male. 🙂

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Bibi July 6, 2011 at 10:23 am

I agree….you have the best titles.

I never was approached by a male escort, but I almost think this guy was a new in the profession and was trying it out and finding his style….not ready to take on arrivals yet.

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Alison Golden July 6, 2011 at 3:37 pm

Could be, could be. I hadn’t thought about that. I’m almost feeling sorry for him, now. Thanks for stopping by!

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Kristl Story July 6, 2011 at 3:59 pm

I’ll be in the Atlanta airport tomorrow, and I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to pass through that airport again without thinking of your story!

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Alison Golden July 6, 2011 at 4:01 pm

Oooh, keep an eye out – brown hair, handlebar moustache, white shirt, collar open wide, navy suit. It was a few years ago but it is IMPRINTED on my mind! 😉

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Brenna
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July 6, 2011 at 5:21 pm

Seriously good title! What an interesting perspective on an incident most of us would much rather not reflect on had it happened to us and a way to turn it around and make it work to your advantage. Fun!

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Alison Golden July 7, 2011 at 2:41 pm

Thanks, Brenna. It was awkward althought we’ve all been in those situations. It gave me a giggle both then and now when I remember it. 🙂

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DrJulieAnn
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July 7, 2011 at 11:48 am

I swear, Alison, I just love your writing style and the way you can turn an awkward situation into a “life lesson moment.” For now on, I’m going to ask myself if I’m at the departure gate or the arrival gate…

Thanks!

#stumbled #dugg

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Alison Golden July 7, 2011 at 2:40 pm

Thanks, Julie Ann. Love yours, too. I was just thinking how to meld the best of the 1950s with the best of right now. Seems like it would be the perfect life…:-)

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Julie August 13, 2011 at 2:54 am
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Adie Malick March 30, 2015 at 11:42 am

i am starting off not for money not for lust …. i just feel i can bring a smile on many faces irrespective of if there will be a financial benefit for the time given or not … i am handsome, with my arab look (being non arab) , i really see a WANT in women eyes
that want is not of something physical but more like a respectful yet discrete companion.
and yes when it comes to romance, i am highly innovative and artistic which always have given me a positive feedback from the dates i had in past …..
being a non- arab and living in arab country …. women look at me as i m a delicious piece of chocolate they have been craving for years ….. ( i can speak their language and have beard of such kind ) …
reading all about do’s and don’ts is helping me alot.

i have collected a few famous books on female sexual psyche and have a good knowledge on over-all what women appreciate in men ( gentlemen ) ….

i am from a very good family background …. so i dont look at it as a cheap thing ( this profession i mean ) just like my Day job … i am gonna do this bcz i will enjoy all the way doing so ( whether it ends in a chat , a dinner somewhere special or an unforgettable night ) bcz it will be str8 frm the heart and not from the mind ….

this had made me successful in my career choice … so will make me successful in this new endeavour
and success for me means = how many hearts i touch n not how much $ i make…. bcz $ is a by-product of anything you do it by heart

i would love to share and exchange thoughts if anyone wants to 🙂
and i am straight (will be) 28 this september.
adele.twain@hotmail.com

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