Wake Up, It’s My Blogoversary!


Today is my blogoversary.

One year ago today, I wrote my first blog post on The Secret Life Of A Warrior Woman.

I look back on that piece now and, apart from cringing a little at the writing, it seems so very long ago.

Back then, I didn’t know anything about WordPress or Thesis, SEO or affiliate marketing. I hadn’t met Galit or Dead Cow Girl or Beth or Shay. I certainly hadn’t heard of Johnny B. Truant, Darren Rowse or Mark Sissons.

I’ve made a little pocket money, won a couple of things, but mostly I’ve languished luxuriously in the community.

But at first, I started with the idea I would write for myself.

I didn’t care if anyone read what I wrote.

In hindsight, that was probably a tactic designed to save me from sadness when no-one did.

At the same time, it also helped me overcome the fear someone would take time out of their life to read something I’d written.

It’s scary putting one’s writing and thoughts out there.

After a while, I did care.

Because you cared.

Slowly you came, you commented, you tweeted and you shared. You probably have no idea how that thrills me.

Or how grateful I am.

Because finally, despite the best efforts of my education and my ability to look the other way, I have found my groove.

As a child, creative writing was effortless. It just poured out. I had no fear and no judgment. I would hand my work in to the teacher, without pride or concern.

It just was.

Then curriculum policy changed and creative writing was patted away.

Writing became essays.

Pages and pages of them.

Of critical thinking, relevant quotes, plots and sub-plots, symbolism and onomatopoeia.

They were drafted, rewritten, edited, then edited again. In long-hand.

The opposite of free-wheeling and creative.

By the time I left high school, I’d forgotten I could write. I’d forgotten an ambition to write for magazines.

The next thirty years I was asleep to a core skill.

But there were signs.

In the workplace, I was asked by others to write their documents and letters. I wrote a couple of articles for my twins club. I sailed through the writing component of my degree.

But when we homeschooled, I sent my son to a writing tutor.

I had no idea how I did it.

And I didn’t recognize writing for the strength it was.

Eventually, I started a private blog to vent over a crisis. Then I went public, drumming up support for a volunteer project.

And finally, it was my turn.

I still get tied up in knots over some posts. They take me ages to write or I hit ‘publish’ and my blood turns to ice. Other times it thrills me to publish my thoughts, invent a turn of phrase, or, especially, make people laugh.

Sometimes I wonder if people think my writing’s rubbish. If they are critical of my wrongly placed apostrophes, of my obsession with commas that continues to ride unabated.

But you know what? I do it anyway.

An artist friend of mine recently called my writing, my ‘art.’

I was shocked because I am the most pragmatic person you can imagine. But she’s right, it is my form of creative expression.

If I have one, we must all.

What’s yours? Don’t be asleep to it.


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April 1, 2011 at 8:57 am

Happy BLOGOversary!! This piece is so touching. I think all of us that start blogging have the same fear and the same anxieties: will anyone read it? will anyone care what I have to say? lol
So it’s great that you started with the mindset of “I don’t care if no one reads it!” I think that kinda saves us all from closing up shop and saying “Peace out!” when we realize that no is reading it! (until muuuuch later!) Within a year, you have kicked some major ass, chica! Lots of blog posts and lots of comments! I love it!

I have to say, I love reading your blog and I so enjoy “talking” with you on Twitter and Facebook. Love, love, love it!

Congrats to your success and your blogoversary. And…ummm….send me a guest post anytime, honey. 🙂

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Alison Golden April 1, 2011 at 8:59 pm

Hi Shay! A lot of us were scared back then, weren’t we? But we’re growing and gaining (in a good way 😉 You know I adore your blog and I think you could work writing copy for Cosmo, girl! I will pencil some time to write a guest post for you, no probs! 🙂


Cathy Presland
April 1, 2011 at 10:11 am

Oh wonderful piece! We all have a creative side I believe and you’ve absolutely found yours 🙂

Happy blogversary and i know a few cupcake folk if you need any celebratory cake.

Cathy x
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Alison Golden April 1, 2011 at 8:56 pm

Hi Cathy! You too, were an early supporter and I thank you hugely for that. As for the cupcakes, I have more than enough, thank you! I’ll be saying a little more in my post next week 😉 Mwah!


Dead Cow Girl April 1, 2011 at 10:42 am

I’m really impressed with how far you’ve come in one year! I started writing for myself, then to be part of the community, then forgot to write… then moved blogs, then wrote for myself a bit more… It has taken for nearly 5!! years to figure out what I want to write about, what I CAN write about and to who. It’s all so confusing. 😉

Thanks for the shout out! I’m so very happy to have ‘met’ you too!!
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Alison Golden April 1, 2011 at 8:47 pm

‘What I want to write about, what I CAN write about and to who.’ Believe me, DCG, I am still working on that, too. It changes every day and sometimes the only constant it seems is me!


Mary E. Ulrich
April 1, 2011 at 10:46 am

Happy Birthday to you…. get a glass of wine and celebrate. Look how far you have come. Your words and stories are funny, inciteful, share lessons, touch our hearts.

I’m so glad I’ve had the chance to meet you.

Wishing you many more years to come.
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Alison Golden April 1, 2011 at 8:44 pm

Hi Mary, my blog buddy! Thank you for the bloggyday wishes. We’ve both come a long way and doing the every day challenge was a huge part of my development. I probably wrote a third of my entire content during that period. Thank you, too, for being one of my earliest supporters and sticking by me and becoming a friend in RL too. There is no end to the love! 🙂


Galit Breen
April 1, 2011 at 11:47 am

HOORAy for you! Happy blogoversary lady! I’m so very glad that we’ve become a part of each other’s tribe- I feel in excellent company with you!

A always so much of what you wrote resonates with me- the caring, the commas, the icy blood.

Keep writing, lady! I can’t wait to keep reading!!


And seriously THANK YOU for the shou-tout! 🙂


Alison Golden April 1, 2011 at 8:27 pm

Love you, Galit! You were one of the first outside my RL circle to read and keep reading. Thank you so much for your enduring support and flag waving! Definitely tribe and tribe is becoming more defined and important as the months go by. Here’s to our continued development as writers! 🙂


SuzRocks April 1, 2011 at 6:07 pm

Happy Blog-birthday!! I guess I had thought you’d been blogging longer than that- Isn’t it crazy how awful the first posts really are? If I go back and look and mine, I just sort of hope that no one else clicks on them (which they probably don’t).

I sort of feel like you, in the aspect that I’ve sort of just been ‘reintroduced’ to writing- I did it a long time ago, and then didn’t do it for a VERY long time. And now, I’m obsessed. I wonder if I will every be able to quit. Answer is probably not- I feel so lucky to have (re)found a hobby/activity that I absolutely LOVE.
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Alison Golden April 1, 2011 at 7:58 pm

I am so flattered that you thought I’d been blogging for a long time, Suz. I still point people to my early posts and sort of cross my legs and squeeze. I’m not sure why I have that reaction, I just do. Thank you for the birthday wishes!


April 2, 2011 at 6:21 am


Happy 1 year. So happy to have met you in this blogosphere. I always look forward to your well written, thoughtful, and witty posts. You have a wonderful talent and I’m happy I’m one of the folks who gets to enjoy the fruits of your labor!

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Alison Golden April 2, 2011 at 5:19 pm

Thanks, Beth. As a present-challenged presenter of gifts, I so appreciate your site. 🙂


Robin April 2, 2011 at 7:04 pm

Happy BLOGOversary!
I have to agree with SuzRocks. I can’t believe that you have only been blogging for a year. Your posts are so entertaining and have an easy flow to them, that it seems to just come really easy to you.

I’m a newer blogger and I am still trying to really find my voice. You are such a great inspiration. I’m looking forward to reading more and more for years to come.


Alison Golden April 3, 2011 at 1:08 pm

Thank you, Robin! I find I just blurt out all over my keyboard to start with but then the crafting and refining can take *hours.* Keep at it, you’ll get there!


Caren with a "C" April 2, 2011 at 10:38 pm

I needed to hear your inspiration! You sparked some ideas. Thanks! Happy Anniversary!
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Alison Golden April 3, 2011 at 1:09 pm

Oooh, I’m so glad I did that. I’ll come over and read them when they’re up.


Glynis Jolly
April 3, 2011 at 6:46 pm

Happy Blogoversary!

My blog is only 4 months old. I have a way to go yet. And true, I’m learning so much along the way.


Alison Golden April 4, 2011 at 9:26 am

You’re learning and growing in leaps and bounds, Glynis. Isn’t it wonderful that we have these options nowadays? Have a great day!


bluecottonmemory April 5, 2011 at 7:18 am

Happy Bloggaversary! I agree with Shay’s comment – started not thinking about who would read it, just wanting to get those ideas in my head out! Wishing you an awesome second year in the blogahood!


Alison Golden April 6, 2011 at 9:31 pm

Thank you! Clearing our minds is a wonderful process – there is so much good stuff in there. 🙂


April 6, 2011 at 7:01 pm

When I started blogging I discovered something magical. It was this deep seeded need to write that I was completely unaware of until I started doing it, now I cannot imagine my life without it. It has filled a creative void I did not know I have and I love it. Happy anniversary and I hope you enjoy many more fulfilling years.
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Alison Golden April 9, 2011 at 2:37 pm

Thank you, Andi. I had no idea about it either. It is so wonderful to find a way to have such a powerful voice.


Julie April 8, 2011 at 10:26 am

Happy anniversary! Do I know your artist friend? Lets meet at a Bohemian cafe and celebrate. Nice work!


Alison Golden April 8, 2011 at 10:40 am

LOL! You do! Thanks for stopping by, Julie. Hope to see you here again. 🙂


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