Pole Dancing, Boudoir Photos – What Is Happening To Me?


At the end of last year, I booked a pole dancing lesson. My friend, Susie, is coming with me.

Today, I booked a boudoir photography session. This time, I am most definitely going alone.

When I saw these deals (I bought them through Groupon) they made me giggle.  I shared them on Facebook. And then I thought ‘Why not?’ And I smiled some more.

My imagination and self-talk took off.

‘The pole dancing’s a steal.’

‘If not now, when?’

‘I have wanted boudoir photos for a long time.’

And the kicker: ‘I could always blog about it.’

By the time I got to the end of my hour’s walk, I was running, so anxious was I the deal might have sold out.

What is happening to me?

I am SO not the sexy type. I don’t even own a lacy bra.

Stilettos give me leg cramps.

Here I am, a suburban housewife and white minivan-driving mother of two. My raciest exploits seem to extend no farther than volunteering to model, fully clothed, for a sculpting class of third and fourth graders.

And yet I signed up to go dancing. Gyrating, almost naked, around a pole.

Then I signed up to get photographed, possibly completely naked, in sultry, suggestive poses!


Could it be my age?

I will be 47 at the end of the month.

47 is far too close to 50 for my liking, but let’s not go there.

Just yet.

I do feel, though, if not now, when?

I was never a particularly attractive young woman and like my friend, Lisa, not terribly interested in fashion and style. It has taken me decades to grow into myself.

I’m at a decent fighting weight and feel healthier now than in my twenties.

Add some life experience, and a few wrinkles and I really do feel in my prime.

I am friendly with Bethany Crouch. She is a Fox40 Live reporter in Sacramento. Every day she does these amazing things.

One day she is skydiving, another day she’s interviewing Stephen Tyler at the American Idol auditions in San Francisco.

Recently she had some boudoir photos done. And I liked them. A lot.

She reminds me of the young woman I used to be – flitting everywhere, doing lots of amazing, new things. Simply having a ball.

That is what life should be like in our twenties, in my opinion.

Being adventurous, doing what we want with few responsibilities.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I love my life.

I have set myself up so that life is just as I want it and I don’t want to change any of it.  Except perhaps, like everyone, I’d like a few more pennies.

But bar that, I truly live my ideal life.

So what is it?

These opportunities are deals, they make great blogging material.

But most of all, the idea of doing these unfamiliar things makes me smile. They are out-of-the-ordinary for a girl like me at this stage of her life. A little bit of my adventurous spirit comes out and makes me feel good. And young.

I can write about my adventures and maybe get a few others to smile too.

And that makes me feel doubly good.

So as soon as my extremely unsexy cast comes off, I will be preparing to cash in my deals.

I have a plan (of course, you would expect nothing less of me, now would you?) and afterwards I’ll write about my exploits. Probably in detail.

With photos. Oh my!


Update: Read how the pole dancing went.

8/14/11: I decided not to use my photo Groupon – the fine print was waaaaay too restricting. I’m disappointed but I’m not copping out, that is not my warrior style. But I will have to do some more research. Watch this space.

** Photo: Karina Marie Diaz Photography

What do you do for some adventure? What inspires you? Or stops you? Let me know in the comments!

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Linda February 3, 2011 at 1:23 pm

Woo hoo Alison! i completely agree, if not now, then when?

Now if your next post describes your dilemma about switching over to the adult film industry, then I’d likely respond….maybe not now. Or ever.

I say you publish some of your photos!
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Alison Golden February 3, 2011 at 2:33 pm

Hi Linda!

Adult films, definitely not! (Although I do have a story about them..one day, one day 😉 I promise to publish photos. The best ones 🙂 Thanks for commenting!


March 23, 2011 at 10:22 am

ha ha Linda …

That would make a great blog post “how I used Groupon to enter the adult fim industry”!!!!!!
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Bethany Crouch February 3, 2011 at 4:45 pm

ALISON!!! I love your blog– and this post rocks!! I am so excited for you and your upcoming adventures. In fact… I think we should plan a fun boundary-pusher together!! Tight rope school perhaps?? I think there’s one in the Bay…just think– blog material!!

I totally agree with you…if not now, when??

A lot of the things…actually….most of the things…I try live on our morning show I would NEVER do without the encouragement of a camera in my face, my producers & viewers. I’m not nearly as adventurous in my personal life as I am on TV. My job has really challenged my comfort level on more than one occasion…sometimes for weeks on end.

That said, I’m REALLY glad my little risks on-air have– even if only in a small way– helped ignite something inside you to get out there and try something new. That’s very cool.

On a side note– what cast?? Did I miss the blog post about you breaking something???


Alison Golden February 3, 2011 at 4:58 pm

Hi Bethany!

Definitely, let’s do a boundary pusher together! I just agreed to belly dancing with another friend, so why not tight rope school or zipline (there’s one of those in SF too.) But not skydiving. Oh no. To do the things you do on TV, well, you must be brave. I read about your adventures and think, yikes! Thanks for inspiring me. 🙂

I broke my arm before the holidays. You can read about it here Cast off tomorrow, I hope! Thanks for stopping by and commenting! 🙂


misty February 4, 2011 at 10:36 am

i LOVED this post… I loved everything you said about your age, and feeling better… I LOVED it… As a photographer who is a BIG fan of buduoir sessions, I thought I would give you the other end of the spectrum opinion…

I like doing these sessions because something about it (i doubt I would ever have them done with me as the subject) I’ve seen girls blossom out of their self consious insecurities into fearless risk takers as the session progresses. there is something incredibly liberating about a woman daring to be sexy! GOOD FOR YOU!
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Alison Golden February 5, 2011 at 1:12 pm

Hey Misty!

Thanks for telling me this and giving your perspective from the other side of the camera. I was having a little ‘morning -after’ moment when I read this, as in, ‘What was I thinking?’ and you nudged me over to the positive again! 🙂


Galit Breen
February 4, 2011 at 12:37 pm

Oh my friend! Good for you! Carpe diem and, of course, post photos! 🙂


Alison Golden February 5, 2011 at 1:12 pm

You, next, dear? 🙂


Tim Huntley February 5, 2011 at 7:00 am

Great idea.

Just wondering if my wife would appreciate a gift of a boudoir photo session, or would it be like when Homer Simpson gave his wife a bowling ball (with his name already inscribed on it)?
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Alison Golden February 5, 2011 at 8:42 am

Hi Tim:

Good for you for thinking of it,Tim!

I think it would depend on what type of personality your wife is but many, many men buy these for their wives and girlfriends, in fact I thought it was interesting that the deal I bought had sold thirty packages before 5am in the morning. I suspect most of those were bought by men up in the the early hours on their laptops and getting the email that triggered their purchase for gifts.

If you read Misty’s comment above, you’ll see that this is as much an empowering experience for the women as it is a gift for their men -in fact this isn’t for my husband at all. It’s all about me. 😉


Tim Huntley February 5, 2011 at 1:35 pm

Thanks Alison!

FYI, just read your about page and saw that you have twin boys. My wife and I have twin boys as well (8 years old).

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Alison Golden February 6, 2011 at 5:26 pm

Congrats for getting this far!

Mine are nearly eleven now. It’s been a ride but one that’s slowed down a little this year. I’m enjoying the breather while anticipating a resurgence in a year or so. 🙂


Mary E. Ulrich
February 6, 2011 at 6:11 am

Tim, what a hysterical response.
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Julie February 5, 2011 at 10:04 am

“I could always blog about it.” Ain’t that the truth! Way to bring sexy back, Alison!
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Alison Golden February 5, 2011 at 1:13 pm

Thanks, Julie! My blog becomes a good excuse for a lot of things, I find…:-)


homschlr4ever February 5, 2011 at 12:01 pm

You go girl. I’ll be 49 in June and I had that “twinkle” moment. I want to do all the things I’ve neglected because of children and husbands and all the work they entail. I have a good friend that takes boudoir pictures and you’d be surprised at how many of my friends are getting the packages. She does a beautiful job too. I say go for it, do everything you’ve ever dreamed of doing. Pole dancing sounds pretty cool even better with friends and Vodka, but you didn’t hear that from me.


Alison Golden February 6, 2011 at 5:27 pm

‘Twinkle’ moment. I like that. Vodka, huh? I’ll keep that in mind…:-)


Mary E. Ulrich
February 6, 2011 at 6:12 am

Alison, this is great! We’re going to get you into a Romance Writer’s group yet? Can’t wait to see the pictures.
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Alison Golden February 6, 2011 at 5:28 pm

Hi Mary:
OK, I’m trying to make the connection between boudoir pictures, pole dancing and….a Romance Writer’s group. I’m sure there is one, I just can’t see it. Obviously you can! Hmmmmm,….:-)


Lin February 6, 2011 at 3:31 pm

Love this post! I love the idea of a pole dancing lesson! That’s TOTALLY outside my comfort zone, which is what makes it so appealing.

Here following your blog from the SITS 31DBBB Challenge!
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Alison Golden February 6, 2011 at 5:29 pm

Hi Lin:
I’m not sure it’s inside my comfort zone either. I’m just going to shut my eyes, not know too much about what I’m letting myself in for and go for it. Best way I find. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. See you over the next 31DBBB! 🙂


Aleta February 6, 2011 at 7:57 pm

Hi – followed you here from playing blog tag at frogblog.

Love your blog. Just remember that pole dancing and tequila don’t mix. Not that I’d know….

To answer your question, if I knew I couldn’t fail, I’d…skydive. Or rob a bank. Or start a business…oh, wait, I did that…..
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Alison Golden February 8, 2011 at 4:41 am

Hmmm, Aleta, everyone who writes about pole dancing, doesn’t wants to admit to it. I wonder why…;-)


SuzRocks February 7, 2011 at 4:12 pm

So I do a lot of stuff for adventure…rock climbing, ice climbing, back country skiing, etc.

But I kid you not, the thing that would scare me the most out of anything?? Would be doing the boudoir picture thing. I really want to do it- but I’ve got a mean case of stage fright. I might have to drink one or five cocktails before hand.

Can’t wait to hear about it! (visiting from SITS)
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Alison Golden February 8, 2011 at 4:29 am

Hi there!
A different kind of courage don’t you think?


Priscilla-The Wheelchair Mommy
February 7, 2011 at 7:20 pm

Maybe some day. Not anytime soon for me. I do think they could be fun though!!


Alison Golden February 8, 2011 at 4:28 am

I’m keeping my fingers crossed that you do! Perhaps, I can inspire you 😉


Lisa D Liguori
February 7, 2011 at 8:28 pm

And next up…Belly Dance!


Alison Golden February 8, 2011 at 4:28 am

I’m not sure I have the curves for it, but I’ll give it a go! 🙂


adrienne February 9, 2011 at 4:08 pm

I want to take pole dancing classes but there aren’t any in my city. I’m thinking about traveling to do so but I want to lose some weight first. No need to make the lifting/spinning more difficult than it has to be.
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Alison Golden February 9, 2011 at 7:02 pm

LOL! It’s supposed to be a great workout. So they tell me 😉 The place I shall be going to advertises it as a fitness class but I think it’s all a ruse…;-)


February 9, 2011 at 6:02 pm

I find myself thinking the same thing sometimes – Would this make a good blog post? Funny how that happens. I don’t have the guts to do either of these things, at least not yet, but I am curious to hear how things turn out. And yes, photos are always good! 😉
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Alison Golden February 9, 2011 at 7:01 pm

Blog posts get me doing all sorts of things. And they hold me accountable. You have no idea how I’m going to squeal to avoid doing both of these things but because I’ve put it out there, I have no choice but to do it!


Jacque Stanwood February 11, 2011 at 2:15 pm

Hi there! I’ve popped over from SITS and just wanted to say that I love this post. I am just now starting to deal with feeling imbalanced with life as a mom and wife and remembering to still be ME! I think this is a great idea to get back on track! Thanks for the inspiration! I look forward to hearing (reading) the follow-up! 🙂
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Alison Golden February 11, 2011 at 6:56 pm

Hi Jacque:

I’m getting excited about doing this. Requires lots of decisions the like of which I don’t normally have to deal with. I’m anticipating a real breakout experience. Thanks for stopping by and commenting! 🙂


Mimi July 14, 2011 at 4:36 pm

Ok, so I’ve never done either of those 2 things, but aside from that, our lives sound so similar, how we feel about ourselves, our lives, etc. I’ll be 42 Saturday. When I saw that first photo at the top of your post I thought, that would be me, but I’d be catching myself and end up poking an eye out or something! LOL
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Alison Golden July 14, 2011 at 5:36 pm

If you could poke your eye out from that position, Mimi, it would be so awesome, there would be nothing left in life to achieve. 😉


July 16, 2011 at 12:28 am

How fun and good for you! I have always thought it might be fun to do boudoir photos, but have never had the confidence to give it a try. Maybe if a Groupon comes my way. 😉
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Melody Granger
August 14, 2011 at 6:37 pm

WooHoo! My experience with pole dancing happened over the summer, when I stumbled into someone’s garage & saw the shiny, silver pole! I had impromptu lessons and hurt like hell that night & the next day. Blog about it? I didn’t, but should have. I did post two 30 second videos on my youtube page and shared it with my facebook friends.

Can’t wait to hear about your pole dancing and boudoir experience! One of my clients who is 49 told me she feels like she thought it would feel to be in her late 30s, back when she would project about what age would feel like. Very cool that you feel sooo spontaneous & better than you did in your 20s.
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Alison Golden August 14, 2011 at 7:03 pm

Video! OMG, girl, you’re brave. I want to see it! Send me a link. 🙂 I did the pole dancing a few months ago. Now I have to find a new photographer for the boudoir photos before I get too old! You can read about the dancing here: http://alisongolden.com/poles-dont-dance-like-that-surely


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