As I reflect on the last ten years with our boys, I have been resurrecting some thoughts I wrote in their earlier years and decided to post some of them here. This is the first one, bedtime…
Since daylight savings nearly two months ago, bedtimes in this household have descended into an absolute nightmare.
The boys (three years old) will be calm and quiet until the moment I close the door and then they suddenly become dynamos – they climb in and out of their cribs, run around the room, pull stuff from drawers, pull pictures from the wall, jump, scream, fight.
Worst of all, they pee repeatedly on the carpet (and laugh) and jump off the five foot high dresser.
After an hour, sometimes more, they crash in tears after someone has been bitten or hurt and then will finally soothe themselves to sleep.
It makes no difference how I respond to them, the moment I am out the door, they are off.
They are definitely tired – they can be falling asleep on my lap while reading a book, yet be wide awake a few minutes later. We have had the same bedtime routine for months and they have always been good self soothers yet suddenly it doesn’t work.
I have tried: singing to them, staying in their room while they fall asleep, being angry, going back in their room at regular intervals, not going in at all (really hard), longer naps, no naps, waking them an hour earlier, putting them to bed an hour later, running their feet off during the day, threatening them with “baby” diapers, making their room pitch black, stripping their room, taking sides off the cribs, putting a potty in their room (they just wee in it then sprinkle the contents around the room…and laugh), and telling them they just need call if they need the potty.
Does anyone have any more ideas or theories as to why this is happening?
Any book recommendations?
The ones I’ve read have been hopeless – “try establishing a bedtime routine that is quiet and soothing” – bit like the advice (when you’re suffering horrendous vomiting 24/7) to have a few crackers before you get out of bed in the morning; totally inadequate.
These people clearly live in a parallel universe to the one I inhabit.
Has anyone has this problem and put them in separate bedrooms? Has anyone even had this problem?
I am seriously losing my mind over this and find myself longing for the days when all I had to worry about was whether I would get one or two hours of sleep in one stretch. It’s 9.30pm and they’re currently seeing who can scream the loudest. They’ve been up since 6am.
I want them to be asleep!!!!
If you are reading this and have boy babies, be frightened, be very, very frightened…”
Find out why I became too frightened to go to the grocery store and how my three-year-old taught me that his vocabulary contained a word that rhyme with ‘truck.’
Have you had this experience? Do you find yourself with problems that even a library of parenting books doesn’t cover. Let me know in the comments!
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