Moving On…

I no longer update this blog but feel free to browse this site; there are tons of useful/interesting articles, and interviews. I now write fiction: suspense, British mysteries, and cozy mysteries. You can check them out here.

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5 Inspiring and Unconventional Personal Development Blogs You Should Read

Like a lot of people, I’m a personal development junkie. I love the idea that I can improve who I am, what my life looks like.

And I love personal development blogs for a quick dose of reality, perspective or controversy especially if they are unconventional or inspire me to think differently.

The internet is drowning in these type of blogs but those that are unconventional stand out and are worth following because these bloggers are true leaders. They have their own style and take on life. They don't have a 'me too' self-development blog.

Here are five great ones I read regularly.

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Why You Should Train Your Child Like a Dog

I was surprised, and a little perturbed, one day to learn that a parenting technique I was having such success with was a dog training trick! I was describing this new-found success to an animal-loving friend, the owner of many a cat and dog, when she said, casually, ‘Oh, that’s what you do with dogs.”

You do?

It reminded me of a conversation I’d had with my primary care doctor once about the many parents she spoke using similar practices with their kids as they do with their dogs! It slightly appalled me.

The need for parents to be alpha dogs

But I can see the similarities. Parents do need to establish themselves as the alphas in a family. Kids fight, sometimes to a frenzy, like dogs. They need to have their youthful exuberance moulded and focused into behavior that’s tolerable and productive.

I found the following parenting technique in a book called ‘The Manipulative Child.’ Like the idea that dog owners should be leaders of the pack, the book was clear about the necessity for establishing parental authority and overall the text was pretty brutal and rough.

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Cancer Diagnosis After Giving Birth: A Warrior Woman’s Inspiring Story

Imagine you were a new mom. Your baby girl was three months old.  You’re nursing, changing her diapers, seeing her smile for the first time. You were bonding, loving spending the time with her, looking forward to watching her grow up.

But something is nagging you. You feel tired. Breathless. You put it down to post-partum depression and birth recovery but it doesn’t get better. One day, it is so bad, you can no longer tell yourself  that it is nothing, so you go to the doctor. And you get a diagnosis.

Cancer.  Contracted from the asbestos your father brought home from work on his boots, his clothes, his hands, when you were little.

How would you feel? Everything you expected would happen, looked forward to, suddenly thrown up in the air likes leaves, swirling around in the wind. Who knows where they would land? Would you even see them land?

This happened to Heather Von St James.  When her daughter, Lily, was three months old she was diagnosed with mesothelioma, a rare form of cancer caused by asbestos exposure. She was given three treatment options: Do nothing and live only another 15 months; undergo conventional chemotherapy and radiation treatment with an expectation of living another 5 years; or undergo surgery to remove the affected lung, pleura, diaphragm and pericardium. This final option was the riskiest but also held the most promise - 10 years or more.

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10 Simple Parenting Tips Every Loving Parent Should Know

James Lehman was a genius, in my opinion.

Formerly a homeless, drug-taking ex-con, he transformed his life and became a social worker working with troubled youth in residential treatment centers.

He developed the Total Transformation Program and despite wearing a shirt and tie in many of his DVD’s, his face couldn’t lose the hallmarks of his early years.

He talked the talk and he’d certainly walked the walk.

I often quote him, and have written about his program in the past.

When I was in the depths of despair over my son’s extreme behavior, I would walk over to my fridge where I’d posted his wisdom.

I would review the points, considering that I may have handled this latest situation poorly, but I had hope with this list that I would do better next time.

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26 Unusually Insightful Points of Uncommon Wisdom

I am usually rather late to trends. They have usually peaked, crested and are on their way down before I jump on the bandwagon.

I usually find myself raving about the latest this or that to people who are a) bored or b) horrified they know such a laggard.

And so it was with storing my phone numbers. Just as people got on the Internet and tiny little pocket computers, I fastened on to the salesman’s BFF from the ‘80’s - the trusty Rolodex.

Oblivious to the complete and utter nerdiness of my state, I would get quite excited as I took out a new pristine white card and write down the number with my favorite pen. I even searched high and low for a special hole punch to make my own cards.

Such was my thrall.

Meanwhile my kids were wondering how I never charged my cellphone. No-one seemed to understand that with two kids and all their clobber, I could never remember to carry my phone to and from the car. I couldn’t understand how just about everyone else managed to do what I apparently could not.

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